I feel the pain of Alex Squires, as described in the article below, only to well. However, I do not believe that escorts should offer discounts to disabled people.
Instead, I think it is the government that should be offering monthly grants for disabled people with high support needs, such as Alex and myself, to unlock the doors to sexual exploration and intimacy for those who cannot easily access such a world. This is similar to what happens in Holland, but sadly it seems a long way away for those of us stuck in the Victorian style UK under a repressive Government.
If I ever manage to secure a full support package from Wrexham County Borough Council this could be my next crusade 🙂
A paralysed car crash victim is calling for escorts to offer him a discount because he can’t travel to have sex.
Alex Squires, 30, suffered devastating brain damage in a car crash more than two decades ago, which left him with spastic quadriplegia – leaving his muscles stiff and difficult to control.
The Lincolnshire blogger, who uses a chair full-time and relies on round-the-clock care to hoist him in and out of bed, first turned to escorts when his last relationship ended.
Now he wants sex workers to offer him a discount after he found he had to pay for expensive call-outs.
Alex, who lives with his parents in Bassingham, Lincolnshire, said: “One problem that irks me a bit about using escorts is that they always have to be out-calls.
“I can never go to the escort’s place because they aren’t accessible and they don’t have a hoist.
“Out-calls are always more expensive which is a bit frustrating. I would go to their place if I could.
“Maybe escorts should give disabled people a discount so that they are the same price as in-calls.”
Alex says in the past he and his last girlfriend relied on carers hoist him into bed so they could be together.
He now hopes to find an able-bodied partner which would make sex easier.
Alex said: “My last relationship was with a girl who was also in a power chair, so we couldn’t hug or kiss each other when we wanted to, which was frustrating.
“She lived in a care home and when I went to visit the carers would sometimes put us on the bed together and we could cuddle, but I found this a bit awkward as we had to be positioned by the carers which wasn’t very private.
“Once we were in position they left us alone, but I would prefer my next relationship to be with someone who was able-bodied.
“I wouldn’t have the same problem of having to rely on a third-party to be intimate all the time.”
Alex says he turned to sex workers out of frustration because his disability makes it hard to meet people, but he is desperate to find a love.
“Just a cuddle or any type of physical contact is nice, because I don’t have physical contact with anyone on a regular basis apart from my carers,” Alex admitted. “A long-term loving relationship will be much better, because you can’t have love with an escort, but I have hearing loss which makes it difficult to talk to people in noisy environments.
“Most people tend to hang out in noisy places like pubs or clubs, so it’s difficult for me to have a conversation with people in these places.
“This makes it difficult to meet new people.”